Tuesday, December 6, 2011

Some [FRs] from the weekend

Was sick and bogged down at work, so didn't go out much last week.  However, I did go out Friday and Saturday.  Here are those FRs.

Friday - Went out with coworkers beforehand.  There was a hot twoset behind us.  I noticed them walking in, then ignored them to talk to my coworkers and build up social proof.  They were both sitting facing the door and I was sitting with my back towards them.  At one point I turned around and said something along the lines of, "can you two please keep it down back there, we're trying to talk!"  Of course I said it with a big, shit-eating grin and they loved it, hooking right away.  I talked for them a bit before turning my attention back to my group.  I later opened them again.  I was giving one of the girls (Russian) some kino, but she was not digging it.  The other one was into me, but I didn't make my move because I am uncomfortable sarging in the spotlight of coworkers.  I would have invited them to sit with us, but logistics were awful.

When everyone was calling it a night at 8:00, I decided to go and hit up a local bar.  I went in and ordered a few drinks and tried to flirt with the bartender a little.  Sent out a coupla pings to friends.  One hit, so we went next door to another place I know (Fred's).  Hung around, but not much was going on.  My friend wanted to go to a dive bar, so we bounced there.  Inside it was crowded.  I went to the bathroom and on the way so a girl I number closed before Thanksgiving.  Talked with her, showed her the pictures I had on my phone of us, and told her I would call her later.  My friend and I bounced, and that was that.  Talked to a couple of other girls here and there, but nothing noteworthy.

Saturday - Friend (girl)'s birthday party.  Meet up her house about nine and start drinking.  They are doing shots and eventually get wasted.  We hang out there for a bit then head out to a club.  The place is CRACKIN with HB 9s and 8s all over the place.  I am still uncomfortable approaching when the hot girl-rate is so high.  At one point I am in the patio-area smoking.  I notice that where I am standing there is a bunch of guys and on the other side of the space there are a bunch of girls.  It's like a high school dance.  While I am thinking, a cutie comes up to me and asks for a cigarette.  I give her a look, but she stays.  I tell her that I might give her a butt if she did something cool/funny.  She's like, "what?"  I say, "what are you good at?"  She thinks about it, but says, "nothing."  Then her eyes light up and she says, "oooh.  I know!"  She then bends her thumbs backwards and says, "see?"  I'm like, "wtf?!"  I kino her a bit and of course make fun of her a little.  I give her a cigarette and light it.  She calls me a gentleman.  We talk for a little big longer before she bounces.

After this interaction I'm thinking, "wtf am I doing?"  I walk across the space to two gals who look as though they are waiting to be opened.  I move in and say, "it's like a high school dance in here with girls on one side and guys on the other."  They laugh and are opened.  We talk a bit, with me giving them shit and them complimenting me ("You don't look like a smoker.  You have a good complexion and look clean").  I bounce inside to look for my way-too drunk friend to make sure she's not getting me into trouble.

Two things about two of the girls in the group I'm with.  One is the birthday girl and is constantly trying to get into my pants, but I LJBF'd her.  She is way too drunk tonight.  Another is a cute girl who only likes buff black guys.  I am not a buff black guy, but I get the feeling that she has a thing for me, so I flirt with her.  She buys me a drink at one point in the night with very little prompting.  Later in the night, she is probably too drunk and clinging all over me, holding my hand, all the signs.  I try to kiss her but get the cheek twice.  Being unreactive I just don't give a fuck, but it was fun.

Later, I go back outside to the dance floor and reopen the twoset from earlier.  I do some grinding with them and cop a feel or two off of them.  My interest level isn't high as they are both 40-somethings, but they've got great bodies and one is French while the other is Brazilian.  I attempt to number close the French gal (even though the Brazilian would've been easier to close) and get the "I'll take yours."  So I put it in and press "send."  I then hand her phone back and go to take out mine.  She ends the call before I get to my phone and says, "I'll call you."  Welp, I've got to look for my friends and don't have time to fuck with her, so I peace.

At one point a wing from seddit shows up.  I get separated from my other friends, so we bounce to another bar (Fred's again).  The place is packed and there are two separate lines, both about 20 people deep.  We walk past the front, see that it's hopeless (getting close to bar time) and darkenergizerbunny says, "why don't we just walk in?"  "Sure," I say.  "We've got to just walk right up like we own the place."  So I go to the front.  I see a bouncer we know, walk right up to him and say, "we were outside smoking."  He says, "hey man."  We are on the other side of the velvet rope and there are two lines on either side of us.  He's letting a group of girls in.  One says something about showing her tits, so I vibe with the bouncer about that a bit.  When he turns to face me again, I make a move to go in and he opens the velvet rope.  I point to my wing and say, "this guy's with me."  We go in.  Place is packed.  I make a bee-line for the back bar.

Now, I can't say exactly what happened, other than to say that I always open a set at the bar, if available.  This time is no different.  I find an empty space at the bar (probably talking to girls on my way in) and say something to a cutie next to me.  She is  very receptive, so we start to talking.  I'm not even sure about what, but I one point I remember a line I read on seddit that I want to give a try.  I say, "Listen, I'm not gay and I don't have a girlfriend or anything, I just suck at flirting and I think you are cute.  Thought I'd throw that out there."  We then go back to talking.  I can tell in her face when I tell her that she's intrigued and it works.  RIGHT ON!  Wish I could remember who I got the line from.  I end up hanging out with this girl for the rest of the night.  Her friend (cousin) kind of hates me and seems to be trying to get rid of me, but this girl is dragging me around by holding my hand.  At some point the lights come on and we are getting separated in the crowd.  I take out my phone, put it onto a new contact page and put it in her hand.  I then lose her in the crowd.  I've never been so worried.  I thought I might never see my phone again.

I walk outside with my wing.  She's right there greeting me as I walk out the door and hands me my phone.  "If you can remember my name, call me."

Later that night I text two girls (no idea what her name was).  Hers was the first response (the other girl texted, "who the fuck are you?"  lol).

Sunday, November 27, 2011

NLA Social Network is Working [FR]

Scene: Saturday night.  Not wanting to go out, but looking because I did not go out the night before.  Called up a couple of BAS'ers, but they were with family/unavailable.  About 6pm I get two texts from two separate girls.

The first girl invited me to a concert for some band.  I googled the band and it was some death metal shit.  I was not interested.  The second girl invited me to some party.  "Jersey Shore" theme.  Said it starts at 9:30.  I waited an hour and a half and texted both girls back.  To the first I said, "Can't make it tonight."  To the second I said, "Sounds cool.  Where is it?"  She gave me the address and I got ready.

The FR  Party started at 9:30, so I planned on getting there about ten.  I got there at 10:30.  As soon as I get to the address, I see three girls standing outside.  So what do I do?  I talk to them, dummy!  I say, "Is this where the fistpumping happens?" (remember, Jersey Shore).  They laugh, so I talk some shit.  There's a girl standing in my way, so I make a big deal like she's in my way to her friends.  Eventually, they get her to move and I go in.

The Party  I enter and it's a tiny house party (studio apartment).  Turns out its some guy's birthday.  I see the girl who invited me and she smiles, comes right up to me and says, "You came!"  I put my six-pack in the fridge (byob) and get to drinking.  It's a pretty nice party.  The venue is small, but there are a bunch of cute girls.  My invitor introduces me to people, so I am not wont for conversation.  I don't stick to the chick who invited me and instead spread my love around.  I talk to everyone at the party at some point (~25 people).  A twoset of hotties come in so I open them.  Nothing stuck, but I gave them shit the whole night (e.g., "You guys are the life of the party!  Came in and sat down right away.  You guys need to chill it out.").

It becomes a blur at this point.  People are in and out, but I establish myself as alpha.  Some guy is drunk as shit and tries starting shit with me, but I defuse him and befriend him.  I am talking to everyone and having a blast.  Some guy tries taking my beer, but I persuade him not to.  A twoset of hotties (another one) comes in, and I talk to them a lot.  One of the girls is super cute and I am pretty sure the other is a lesbian.  I facebook close them both.  God, I want the hot one, but she said she has a boyfriend.  The HB lesbian said they were lovers or some shit when I first opened them, but I was nonreactive and just plowed.

One of the girls I saw earlier in the night (one of the girls from outside that I first encountered) is leaving, so I engage her in conversation.  She's with her friend, so I talk to them both, but focus on the hottie.  Things are going swimmingly, so I say, "we should hang out some time."  This is my can't lose number close.  I wait for her to respond with, "yes."  Her friend interrupts and there's some chit-chat in between, but I stay persistent and she agrees.  I say, "Great!  Then you should give me your number."  I get my "new contact" screen up and hand her my phone.  She puts her shit in there and I call her.  She entered it wrong the first time, so we fix it.  She put in her first and last name without provocation (serious IOI).  I make some more chitchat and say goodbye.  I texted her the next morning and got a good response (basically, made fun of her last name).

As the party's winding down, it's clear that the girl who invited me wants to go home with me.  I don't fuck it up, act cool and take her home.  Yes players, it's a lay report.  Take her home the next morning and hit the gym.  I knew today would be a good day :)

Lastly, on my way to the party (forgot this), I got a text from a girl.  "What are you up to buddy, wanna drink?"  Lol, I LOVE social game.  Remember to talk to everyone and the situations will present themselves.  Be true to yourself, future players.

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Newbies Post, Some Lessons for Beginners

I don't know about your local lair, but in the bay area we have new guys constantly coming out with us and most are beginners. Usually these guys come out once or twice and are never heard from again. These men are not ready for a mansformation.

Before entering the community, you've got to look at yourself in the mirror and decide to make a change. You've got to say, "what I've been doing has not been working out. I'm ready to change." If you're not ready to embrace the ideas of this community, then you're not ready for seduction. It's that easy. Seduction is not going out on Friday nights and trying to talk to women, its becoming a better person. It's not for the weekend warriors, its for those men who are ready to change their lives.

Okay, so you're ready. You've decided to commit yourself and make some serious changes. Now's the hard part: you've got to do it.

Seduction is like any field of study. You can read all the theory you want and that's good, in practice. However, ask yourself the same thing every fifth grade student asks his math teacher: "How will this help me in life?

Fellas, you've got to get out there and sarge. There is simply no way to improve unless you start talking to women. Hell, talk to anyone. Talk to everyone. Get out of your house and live an interesting life. Get yourself a hobby (other than seduction) and commit to it. To bastardize a quote from Gandhi, be the change you want to see.

Now for the meat of this post. Some simple tips for those guys who are just starting out:

Your first 2000 sets are just practice. I'll repeat that. Your first 2000 sets are all just practice. You didn't think this would be easy, did you? There's a reason why we start with the 100 set challenge (/r/100sets). It's because 2000 is an intimidating number. And it is, if you think of it that way. However, it is just a means to the end. Anything you're really good at, think about how much time you've put into it. I'm sure it's well over 2000 hours. Well, seduction's the same way. You've got to put in your time.

Now, these sets don't have to be perfect. They don't even have to be awesome. Your first set can be walking up to a girl, saying "hi," and running away. Congrats! That's one set! What's important is to actually get to 2000 sets. And the sooner you get there, the better. Like all learned skills, your seduction skills will erode over time (any guy who got out of a long-term relationship before coming here will attest to that).

The second thing about framing your first 2000 sets as practice sets is that it prepares you for the actual time it takes to progress in this field. Seduction takes time. It's a learned skill. You've got a lifetime of bad habits to fix. You should not be expecting to move mountains within the first week or even month of doing this. However, you will be constantly improving. Which moves to the next step.

Be happy for every improvement. I've seen it. Some guys come out a couple of nights, don't get any numbers in their first couple of tries and quit. It's because their goals are too high. Look, everyone is different and everyone has their own pace. While one aPUA will go from AFC to k-close in a month, it may take another a year. What is important to focus on are the small improvements you make.

Let's say you have crippling social anxiety and to go out with people from your lair that first time and it was HELL just getting out of your house. That's step one. Then you met some people. That's step two. You didn't talk to anyone outside the lair that night, but you made some potential friends. Next time you go out, you open a fourset of dudes. You're talking to them the whole night. That's your next step. Next time you go out, you open a fat girl sitting at the end of the bar. Congratulations, you are improving!

Along the way, there are many things you can be happy about and if you look, you'll see many areas in which you are improving. As you improve, remember two things. 1) as Han said to Luke, "Don't get cocky, kid!" You've still got a ways to go. 2) At the same time, rejoice in the small steps you take on a way to becoming a better man. Oftentimes, it is the journey that we look back on with most fondness.

Have the proper frame when you start going out Let's say you've got no wings and that your area has no lair. You start going out alone. You talk to ALL the women. You don't do great. You are not sticking in your sets. You are not reaching your goals. May I suggest this frame: "I'm just going out to make new friends." Those eight words, if you believe them, will get you sticking to more sets than you have time for. One of my favorite openers, and please feel free to use it, is to walk over to a group of girls and say, "Hey! You girls look really cool, so I just had to come over here and talk to you." Forget about negs for a minute, forget about routines, forget about everything Mystery taught you. Just walk into a set and open. Talk to them (not at them). Turn the fourset into a five (or two into a three, etc.). Remember, your first 2000 sets are all practice, so if you forget your DiCarlo kino escalation ladder, it's fine. You're in set. Be happy, because you are improving!

Don't sweat it. The dirty secrets of the seduction world are as follows: 1) it takes a long time to become a PUA. 2) You actually have to gasp work at it. So, Get out there and sarge!

Finally, keep a journal. Keep notes on your progress day-to-day. What you've learned, things you can improve on, who you met, what's been working for you, etc. A month down the road, you'll be eternally grateful when you look back and see the progress you've made.

Guys, I want you to get better. I want good wings. I am sick of going into the field, opening a set, and having three guys lurk around the edges as I talk to a twoset of girls. Do it for yourself, do it for me, do it for the girl who's waiting for the perfect man. Get out there and become a social person. Learn how to talk to people. Make friends. Just sarge.

Monday, November 21, 2011

[LR] 11/17/11

Posting this up a bit late.  Went out with snarkymcchoad from the boards.  It was our first time hanging out and was a blast.  Pre-gamed it at a bar with cheap drinks and there were SF cheerleaders there.  Opened the cheerleaders, waited for McChoad, got into a set, then saw McChoad.  Ejected from my set.  Saw them later in the night and said, "what're you guys, following me around?!"  One thing I notice when I use this line is girls try to reframe it ("no, you're following US!").  Just an observation.

Hit next spot.  Standing at the bar when some girl walks in and looks at me.  I look at her.  She looks familiar.  She comes over and opens me.  Apparently I was dancing with her one night at a different bar.  She says, "I should've gotten your number."  I say, "well we should fix that right now."  We exchange numbers (wherein she puts in her full name, unprompted).  She ends up clinging to me the whole night.  A couple of times I move in to k-close, but she backs away, so I do too.  Hit up the next spot and she follows.

The next spot is more of a club atmosphere.  9s and 10s all around just giving me AA like you read about.  I lose my hanger-on.  I start talking to this one girl.  We're kissing within ten minutes.  It's not something I was necessarily looking for, but she kept leaning into me.  (This happens to me once a week, where there's a girl I'm not really all that interested in kissing who really wants to get some.  I guess there's something to be said for being prepared/right place, right time.)  So I say "fuck it" and go for the makeout.  I pull out first.  I tell her "I have to go find my friend, but let me get your number so we can hang out later."  She says ok.

Go with Snarky to the dance floor.  We work on our dance game.  I try opening a few sets, but to no avail.  There's a real attractive HB Black girl whom I try dancing with, but it doesn't go spectacularly.  I try to open her by opening her (male) friend who is dancing and use him as an excuse to get into their dance circle.  Doesn't really go that well.  Eventually, McChoad and I decide to call it a night.

Walking home I text my hanger-on ("what happened to you") and the girl I just met ("Hey, it's NLA.  Don't makeout with any more guys tonight.").  My phone burps and I restart it.  When it comes back on, there are two messages from new girl.  Something to the effect of "let's meetup?"  I text back, "heading home.  Where are you?"  At this point, I should point out that the only game you should be running when you get a text like that is logistics.  Your job is to not fuck up.  Find out where she is, clean up the house a bit, and head to the address she gave me (some sorority house).  By this point its pushing 3 a.m. on a Thursday night.  I pick her up and she wants me to give her (hot) friend a ride home.  I give shit then comply.  Her friend is grilling me on the way.  I'm like "what's with the twenty questions?"  She says, "you're about to fuck my friend, I want to know about you."  lol, ok.  We get to the friend's house, which is also the girl's house.  She beckons me in.  I oblige.  These chicks come from rich families, but w/e.  The friend pushes us into the girl's bedroom and she jumps on me.  That's all you get.

Something I should've done is pulled the hot friend in for a threesome.  She was saying how she is going to miss sleeping with her (name of new girl).  These girls were ready for it.  Alas, this is something to work on in the future.

Another thing I really have got to work on is my 10 game.  I know it shouldn't feel different talking to tens, but it does.

Finally, Snarky, good hanging with you man.  We'll definitely be doing it again soon.

Wednesday, November 16, 2011

On Giving Value

Giving value is a completely selfless act. We do it to make others feel better about themselves. When you are giving value, you are seeking nothing in return and giving everything. It is this act of selflessness which resonates with others. We, as humans, are constantly thinking of our selves and have a tendency to act selfishly. Yet when we give value to others, we do so for no purpose other than to make those around us feel better.

Perhaps the argument can be made that by making others around us feel better, we make the world a better place for ourselves (and better equip ourselves to be surrounded by high value people) – a selfish act under the surface. However, the goal of making a better life helps not only ourselves, but those in our immediate vicinity. By feeling better, we are better equipped to help those around us feel better when interacting with us. By making our lives as socially comfortable as possible, we open others up to our world and allow them to feel better about themselves.

It is only after we feel good about ourselves that we can make others feel better. Therefore, a central precept of value-giving is making our lives better along the way. You can say you want to give value, but it is a worthless endeavor if you do not represent value in yourself. If a valueless person gives value to another, what has he given? What does he have to give? You cannot give something that you yourself don’t have.

Therefore, in order to give better value to others, we should constantly be seeking to make our own lives more valuable. This is a lesson not only for pickup, but for every aspect of our lives. If we make efforts every day to make our lives more attractive to not only others, but ourselves, we will have remarkable value reserves that we can then share with others. Some things to do to increase your own value include: dressing better, taking care of your body by working out and eating right, becoming financially stable, having a strong sense of self-worth, being self-amused, and having a strong social circle. When all these things come together, we are in a better place to make others feel better about themselves. When this happens, people will want to be close with you.

If you need an end result for giving value, it is this: by giving value you make it so that others will want to be with you. You give good feelings and others will want those good feelings to continue. The best way to do that is to spend more time with you. You give freely of your time to others, thus giving more value. They value you more highly and are more likely to do things to help you. This in turn gives your life more valuable and better equips you to have high value in the future. By giving value, we set ourselves up to receive value. If done right, it is a never-ending chain of you giving value (expecting nothing in return) and receiving value back, which you then reinvest in others. Once set in motion, this force is not easily stopped and you will be taken care of for a long time to come, value-wise. So give value freely, expect nothing in return, and reap the rewards that come with it.

Monday, November 14, 2011

11/11/11 - Day 2

Logistics This day two was arranged after my Halloween pickup and k-close that can be found within this blog.  We had originally planned to meetup that Sunday, but she claimed a hangover, so we did not meet.  We agreed to meet the following Sunday to attend a museum.  However, that fell through as well and plans were made for the Friday above.  I arranged a guest-list pass for a show and had her pick a bar for us to meet.  She arrived early and I was running late.

First Location - I arrived and hit the can right away (long drive).  I found her and said, "do you remember me?"  She said, "nope."  I was working uphill.  I offered to buy her a drink because I was late.  I returned with the drink and we talked about a plethora of topics ranging from where we grew up (two towns apart from each other as it turns out), to what we do, to philosophizing on various subjects.  We had two drinks at this location before moving on to the spot I had planned.

Second Location - However, upon arrival at the place, the line was terribly long.  I suggested we have a drink at the bar across the way.  She complied.

Third Location - We get in and order up a couple of Guiness.  I think at one point I use my patented "sorry, I wasn't listening to you.  I was staring at your legs" (she was wearing a short-short skirt and had on tights.  Her legs looked good).  It fell flat.  This was going nowhere fast and every time I attempted kino, she was slightly put-off.  Eventually she goes to the bathroom.  When she comes back she says, "this isn't going to work."  I say, "huh?"  She says, "well, what do you think?  Do you think this is working?  I don't like waiting in lines."  I have no idea what this is so I go, "whoa, whoa, whoa.  What did you think was going on here?  We're just two people having drinks.  Nothing else."  She seems satisfied with this and is intimating that she wants to go.  I tell her, "Well, seeing as how I bought the last round of drinks, as far as I see it, you owe me a drink."  Lol, she says, "you're right, I'll get you one."  She orders it.  I say, "you can have one too."  She orders two.

The Bounce  We sit there drinking these beers, and honestly I feel a weight lifted off my shoulders.  I wasn't interesting in this girl that much anyway, and now that we're just hanging out, I feel downright giddy.  So, we're talking and I am still initiating kino (which she is not totally compliant with).  I send out a couple of texts and arrange to meetup with some other PUAs at other locations.  I tell her where I am going and she says "oh, I like that bar."  I tell her she can come too.  She's non-commital but walks out with me.  She says she's going to stop at a hotel and get a cab.  I tell her it's fine and that I have to get my car.  She starts walking with me and we walk for two or three blocks together.  I have no idea what's going on.  Eventually, we get to a corner and she says, "here's a cab."  I tell her, "you should take it," and keep walking.  She stops and says, "okay, I'm taking this cab...."  Without turning around, I say "see ya."

lol, ok, so I was kind of a dick towards the end but I was honestly sick of her shit.  She was playing games with me and I was not having it.  At one point she let slip that she is currently living with her ex-boyfriend, does not bring people home, and has no plans of moving out.  Dealbreaker as far as I'm concerned.

I think if I pushed the matter I could have gotten her to hang out more, but again, I was sick of this chick.  The girl I made out with on Halloween was cute, loose (I mean body-language-wise, not morally), care-free and interesting.  This girl was snobbish, a braggart and aloof.  Maybe if I had gotten her more drunk it would have been better, but I could see there was no future there (which may have been what turned her off in the first place).

Later on I met up with a guy from the community and had a great time picking up this other chick.  So the night wasn't a total waste.

Friday, November 11, 2011

11/10/11 Day 2

The FR that led to this day 2 is here.  In between there was some texting.  She texted me the next day saying "totally forgot, but I have class until 9p on Thursday."  I tell her to get her homework done early so we can go out after.  She agrees, but on Thursday tries to flake, saying she has to work early Friday and asks if we can go out Sunday.  I tell her "mebbe, but Sunday's no good."  She replies back something, I call her naughty, she tells me it's on for tonight.  Some logistical texts follow, and I tell her to meet me at a club at 10:30.  Throughout the night she's asking me what to wear, where the place is, etc.  Frankly, I thought she was a little crazy, but w/e.

Get there at 10:30 and order a drink.  Wait around.  She texts me, says she's there.  I tell her where I am.  She comes back and we hug.  I tell her she looks good.  I tell her to get a drink.  We talk at the bar for a while.  She's a close talker and pulls me in when she says something.  It makes kino very easy.  She is very sensual and it turns me on in a big way.  I tell her.  I also make sure to push-pull, ramp attraction, and generally be a PUA (in control of the situation, leading frame, etc.).  For those of you guys wondering, I made her get her own drinks, but ended up buying her one towards the end of the night (after the k-close I think).

My biggest mistake of the night was not going in for the kiss close early.  It took me a good hour before I just said "fuck it" and went in there.  I really need to work on having balls and going in for the kiss close.

One of the funniest moments of the night was when I went to the bathroom and came back to find her talking to a guy.  "He says he's a motivational speaker!" she says.  I look the guy in the eyes.  "that's great," I say.  I smile.  She's asking him questions, but I can tell he's getting uncomfortable.  I just give him value and say, "awesome," whenever he says something.  Then, when I'm finished, I open my gal and close off my body language.  He gets the picture and ditches.  I think he was a community guy, so if you were at Myth last night, let me know.

Anyway, we head out to a divey type bar.  Then we get something to eat.  Then we're in her car and I have her drive to my place (where I have a garden-type area in the back).  I take her back there.  We're both tired at this point (excuses, I know), so nothing really happens.  We just sit back there and chill a bit.  Then I have her drive me back to my car.  I get out.  She says, "you know, I won't bite," so I go back in and kiss her a bit.  Then I get in my car and drive away.

Later that night I texted her, "we should do that again sometime, but with more sex ;)"  No response.  heh, we shall see.

Tuesday, November 8, 2011

Gaming is Not Just About Women

Something to remember is that pickup is not just about picking up women.  It is about improving lives.  If we were all high quality men, we would be surrounded by women and have our pick.  Sure, there is something to be said for knowing the basics of how to talk to a girl, but beyond that it is simply living an exciting, social life.

A lot of the principles we learn on the road to PUA come in handy down the line.  Giving value to others will make you a popular person with many friends.  Being a man of your word will earn you the respect of others.  Making your body more attractive via the gym will make you feel better and give you more energy.  Living an exciting life is its own reward.

We should remember things we can do every day to keep us in "state."  By "state," I mean that feeling you have when you are on top of the world.  Feeling accomplished.  Below is a list of a few things that, for me, keep me well-rounded and happy.  If I miss one of these, I end up feeling worse.  They are things I do every day that make me feel good about myself.  You should have your own.

  1. Do something active (like working out)
  2. Do what I had planned to do that day (no laziness/putting it off)
  3. Make plans for the next day, possibly the week
  4. Clean up after myself (e.g., dishes, taking out trash, etc.)
  5. Help someone/talk to someone.
  6. Get off the internet.
Those are mine.  When I accomplish all six, I feel good about myself.  If I don't, it tends to snowball and I end up feeling worse down the line.  I basically try to improve everyday.  

Saturday, November 5, 2011

[FR] 10/4/11 -- Escalate!

Just got back from a road trip yesterday.  On the trip, there was this cute court reporter.  We had some rapport and I was talking to her.  She lives six hours away, but we were flirting and I should've just gone for the number.  It doesn't matter that I live far away.  I could've had her number, built some rapport, then called her next time I was in town for a possible hookup.  Two lessons: ABG and ABC.  I am succeeding at the first, need to work more on the second.

Set 1 -- The Bartender:  I got off of work late last night.  Didn't feel like going out, but didn't feel like going home either.  I hit the local dive bar.  Ordering my drink, a bartender who opened me a couple of nights ago comes up.  "Why do you look familiar," she says to me.  I tell her she bummed a cigarette from me.  We talk a bit about nonsense and she says, "my husband."  I joke some more with her (she was saying how he steals the cigarettes she hides, I say she's not very good at hiding them), but leave it alone.  Her sister is also a bartender and cute, so I flirt with her a bit, but it's hard.

Set 2 -- The Bitchy Girls:  Outside smoking, some girl comes up.  "Is this the ashtray," she says.  I say, "see the cigarette on the side?"  She says something (I was trying to be CF, but may have missed) and walks inside.  Inside they are ordering drinks next to my spot at the bar.  They are a threeset.  Bartender tells them Kettle One is same price as well and the girl's face lights up.  I say, "That's so cute how your face lights up.  You're so excited.  You just made my night."  I'm trying to enter the group, but it's hard.  They are closed off, in a cliquey type thing, and move off to sit right behind me.  All terrible logistics, so I leave it.  However, I do get from them that they are on a bar crawl for some kickball thing.

Set 3 -- The Good One:  Some gal comes in and orders a drink one seat over from me.  I say something, don't know what, that gets her to sit.  We start talking and get into the topic of cheers'ing.  I think I tell her that cheersing with water is bad luck.  She says it's bad luck not to cheers with eye contact.  I tell her that we'll cheers when she gets her drink.  She does and we go to cheers (over the seat between us).  She spills her drink all over the seat in between and breaks eye contact.  I give her shit and told her she broke eye-contact.  She says we'll cheers again after she cleans it up.  I say, "that's nice of you to clean up.  I respect that."  We cheers again, this time with eye contact.  I make some small-talk rapport-building stuff.  We're talking mostly standard stuff (where you from, etc), but the convo is interesting.  Eventually, we are joined by her three friends (two guys and one girl).  Apparently they are all from the kickball thing.  It's now a group, so I am talking to everyone.  It's fun because I am almost immediately accepted into the group (started talking to the guy closest to me as soon as they walk in) and they stop and listen when I talk.  It's amazing how much I've improved in Social Game.  However, my logistics get all fucked up by the external interrupt, I'm out of money, and I have to go pee.  I pee, then head to the bank without so much as a goodbye.  That was definitely beta and bad behavior.  I should have walked up to the gal I was talking to, said, "listen, I have to go, but I like you and find you really interesting.  Let me get your number so we can hang out."  I did not.  But it's OK!  An AFC makes excuses for why something didn't happen, a player says, "what could I have done better?

Interlude:  Go to the bank, then head to a game store where some of my friends are.  Talk to them, grab one and head back to the bar with an eye towards reopening the set.  However, I have a travel bag with me and they won't let me in.  We head to the bar across the street where I know everyone.  Head to the bar in the back.  Bullshit with the bartender who gives us a deal on the drinks, head to the back and grab a table at the patio.  There was a guy there, but we talk to him and he eventually abandons the table.  One thing to know is that my friend is total AFC and a bit of a dick.  He tells me he's listening to Alpha tapes or something, so I tell him about the natural progression of Choad->Asshole->Alpha Male.  He seems disinterested and skeptical.  Enter set 4.

Set 4 -- The Kuwaiti:   We're sitting talking and this beautiful girl comes up and asks for a light.  See a couple posts back how this is a HUGE IOI.  I give her shit.  I say that I have matches and she can only use ONE, but if she blows it, I won't give her another one.  Some more shittalk and she goes to light it.  She does and I say, "now you have to light mine."  I can't tell you how well I started this set.  After both cigarettes are lit, she walks to the other side of our table, sits and says, "now I'm going to sit down."  OK.  She's with a friend who is doing a little bit of cockblocking.  Unfortunate for me, my wing has no idea what is going on and does not disarm the obstacle.  No excuses, I do it and she eventually bounces, leaving the Kuawait.  Another friend of mine comes over and we are now three dudes and one girl sitting at a table.

Here I made some basic mistakes.  One was that the girl was across from me.  We are vibing, but I should have gone closer.  For instance, when my friend entered the set, I should have offered my seat and moved closer to the babe.  The set ultimately failed because I did not do this and thus could not escalate.  It was too bad too, because she was a really cool and cute girl whom I would've like to got to know.  Another mistake was not listening as much as I should and is something I definitely have to work on.

The set went well for a while.  I am managing external factors, keeping her entertained and my friends are having a good time too, I think.  I am making everyone happy (or trying).  At one point the cockblock comes back and says, "we're leaving."  This is where I get Kuwaiti girl's number, but by now it was too late.

One more note about this night, and it is talking to everyone.  By talking to the bartenders in set one, I immediately got into state from being in a low state.  It carried me to the next set, and that set carried me into the next.  I felt sociable and it showed.  People wanted to be around me.  They could see that I was a valuable male.  Remember to talk to everyone, playa.

Some lessons: 

  • ABC.  It's easy to say, but it means to ESCALATE.  I have GOT to work more on this.  It also means to follow your gut.  Which leads to:
  • Follow your gut.  I heard that, when you think you should kiss a girl (i.e., you start thinking about it), then it's time to kiss the girl.  Something about our reptilian brains picking up the girl's pheromones of her thinking about us in a sexual way.  Sounds new-agey, but I believe it's right.  If it's too hippy for you, remember this: follow your gut.  e.g., the girl from earlier in the day.  There was a point when I thought, "I should get her number."  She was probably thinking, "he should ask for my number."  By not asking, I am being the opposite of a value-giver and make her doubt herself.  Which leads to...
  • Get the number.  Never leave a set with a girl your interested in still in it without having gotten a way to continue the conversation.  You are doing yourself a disservice.  It takes energy and time to open a set, talk to them, create value, and keep them entertained.  Getting contact info is the reward for your investment.  Later, you invest more and get better rewards.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

Text Game

Been working on text game lately.  Because my 100 sets (#closes) have been successful, I've had all these numbers.  Now I need to do something with them.  One girl I was texting for a while after a makeout, but we never got a chance to meetup, so it sort of fell off.  Another girl texted randomly one night to meet her out, but I was too tired.  Subsequent attempts to get her out fell flat.  Another gal keeps inviting me to parties, so there's that.

Recently I've been texting three girls.  Two via gchat and one via phone.  The first gchat girl we'll call "Old Friend" ("OF").  I've known OF since before I was single.  Not sure if there was anything there.  Other than her tig ole bitties, I wasn't that attracted to her.  She's since moved away, but visited last year and we had a very near hookup.  We've been flirting ever since.  It's definitely a long-term-game.  Just pings every few weeks with the usual teasing/build rapport, etc.

Girl two is a gal I met from Social Circle game.  We'll call her "South America" ("SA").  She's been a hard nut to crack.  Part of the problem may be showing interest.  I think I need to show her more.  Recently however, she came out to a birthday celebration I had.  I took this as a sign of attraction and pinged her today via gchat.  "Hey there" got a response ("what's up") at which point I established a convo.  I'm packing tonight, so I'm just going to leave the convo hanging until an opportunity to go out together establishes itself.

The final girl I made out with last Saturday night.  We'll call her "Make Out" ("MO").  We texted some on Sunday, but the logistics weren't right and we couldn't meetup (she lives an hour away).  We made tentative plans for this Saturday, so I pinged her with "HEY!"  LOL, I knw, choady but it got an immediate "hey" response.  We texted back and forth a bit (her always replying fast, me always taking time between texts).  Don't know where to go with it, but just trying to keep the lines of communication open so Saturday Day 2 happens.

That's it, just wanted to get this stuff down.  I'm fairly new to text game.  Hopefully I get better as I get more numbers.

Tuesday, November 1, 2011

10/31/11 FR -- Halloween Salsa

Some nights you go out and everything is working.  Some nights you come home with your dick in your hand.  As a preamble, I DID NOT feel like going out.  But fuck it, it's salsa night, I need the lesson, I've been putting it off, and I should sarge.  I forced myself out.  Couple of thoughts from my night.

Went out to a salsa lesson after work.  Came home, got changed, then went out.  Lesson started at 9:00, but I got there a little early.  As I am walking in out of my car, I see two chicks dressed as referees.  So I open them.  "Hold on, now.  Illegal use of the crosswalk," or some bullshit.  Then we start talking about whistles and I start messing with them.  One is an HB 8 and one an HB 7 with huge bizonkadonks.  Come to find out, they're going to the same place.

I walk in with these two hot girls.  Now it's on.  Apparently there's a $5 cover, but I don't pay.  Once inside, the girls go to order a shot.  I go to the other end of the bar where I see lonely HB8.  I go and open her.  Don't remember what was said.  She was wearing a tie.  We start talking about that.  It's all fucked up, so I take it from her and tie it for her from the back.  Problem is, it's my first time doing that and I suck at it.  So I take it off of her head, put it on my neck, tie it right, hand it back to her.  Order my drink.  Rapport with the bartender ("you've been here before, right?").  Tell the bartender I heard a rumor that you get free champagne on your birthday.  She says no, but you get a free mojito.  I tell her I'll take it, but she says it can't be the one I just ordered.  "OK," I say, "next one."

Salsa Lesson ensues.  Nothing to see here.  I talk to all the girls and establish early rapport.  It's a lot like speed dating (lesson to be found somewhere.  Not sure where).

After salsa, the band comes on.  I find the HB8 ref and ask her if she wants to practice (salsa).  She says yes, so we dance.  After, I find an HB7 asian girl I danced with earlier and dance with her.  Then she bounces me to the hip hop side of the club and we dance with her two friends (HB6s).  It's weird because they're a group, but HB7 is showing me attraction.  I try to dance with all of them.  One of the HB6s bounces me to the other side for more salsa and the friends follow.  But I lose her in the process.

At some point, HB8 in the tie tells me my cigarette smell "smells good."  I tell her I will find her the next time I go out to smoke.  See her later and bounce her to the outside patio area.  We sit and smoke.  Establish rapport (talking about her job, places I've been, difference between CA and east coast).  I should note that when we first got out there, there was a two-seater.  She did not sit down right away.  I did.  Gave her a minute, then said, "sit."  She does.  We talk.  I establish kino (touch her leg, her arm.  I feel like a buffoon as my kino has no real purpose.  I am just touching her to touch her).  At one point, she says she likes the songs that we can hear coming from the hip hop room.  I tell her that we will go in and dance after our cigarettes.  While we are talking, she is constantly looking around.  A mixed two-set comes in and sits next to us.  She opens Wonder Woman (whom I had opened previously) with, "I love your costume."  I establish dominance and start talking to them before bringing it back to her.  She says, "I love this song."  We go dance.

Side note: I am keeping my FR short.  There are so many small interactions that it is hard to report them all.  For instance, we can hear the sounds coming from the hip hop room this whole time.  When we first walk in, a song comes on and she says she loves it.  I am sitting and she is standing.  I say, "Is this song [X]?" (don't remember what it is).  She says "yeah.  How'd you know that?"  Then she takes off her shoes and sits next to me.  If I report every detail, then this will become unweildly.  So if you have questions, need more in depth, ask.

Enter physical game:  We go into the hip hop room.  I take the lead to the middle of the dance floor and start dancing like I don't give a fuck.  She joins me.  It gets physical fast.  I am grabbing her hips.  I grind her.  We are coming together then going apart.  At one point I slap her ass.  Another time I put my arm around her shoulder and onto her chest.  She removes it.  I move my hands on her hips.  At some point I think, "OK, kiss her."  I don't.

It all ends pretty quickly after that.  She says, "Let's go back."  I say, "huh?"  And she says, "well, I'm going back, you can stay."  I say, "let's go."  We walk to the other part of the club and she says, "OK, thanks for the cigarette" and disappears into the crowd.  fml.


  • Salsa lessons are great.
  • If you think you should go for the kiss close, you should.
  • ABC.
  • Get better at physical game

in the hip hop room so I bounce her there.  Enter sexy dancing.  I establish kino early.  We are grinding, my hands are roaming.  I enter physical game, which I am working on.  However, I do not escalate to the kiss.  I get the feeling at one point that we should kiss (I was getting plenty of IOIs, i.e., her not leaving, I smacked her ass and she did not recoil, we were grinding), but I didn't fucking close.

Lessons I've got to become better at physical game.

Sunday, October 30, 2011

[FR] 10/29/11 - Halloween Weekend

Went out last night with some BAS'ers and had a blast.  We all piled into one car and drove up to San Francisco.  The bars were PACKED and the streets were overflowing.

Beginning Getting into state.

We walk into the usual spot and the place is already packed.  Just people everywhere.  I'm a little out of it, so I just sort of wade in.  I walk to the back, get a drink, then start walking towards the front again.  I say "fuck AA," and open a cute flapper.  The set goes well, but I feel like she's tolerating me more than just talking to me.  We're role playing a little bit about how we're going to Charleston together and about the secret password to get into this prohibition bar.  I don't escalate though, and eventually she's off to find her friends.  Lesson 1: Escalate.

Next set of note are some girls dressed as KISS.  They've got the whole group and at least three of them are hot.  I'm talking to the cutest one.  She's got some red wine she pulls out of her purse.  We're vibing a bit and she's telling me about all the costumes.  These girls are a little wild and in their own reality, so eventually I just let them go.

The Middle On opening sets.

We head back to the original bar and it is a shitstorm.  Eventually find IMKumarYo.  Haven't seen him in a bit, so we're chatting.  In the corner of my eye, I see a hot girl who opened me as I walked in the bar so I go and reopen her.  She's not that receptive to me, so I talk to her cute friend.  She's dressed as Alice from Alice in Wonderland, so I give her some shit for it.  The whole night I would make awful guesses on the most obvious costumes.  It was a blast.  While I'm talking to Alice, these guys apparently keep trying to blow me out.  I think one said "nice try," but I wasn't getting out of state and paying them no attention.  Kumar comes over and regulates like a boss.  He's pissed and it's great to see him step up.  I leave the set because the logistics are fucking horrid.

So I'm walking away and Kumar, asshole that he is, throws me into a set.  Two girls are walking by and he does the "sunshine of my life" opener.  One of the girls wanders off, but the other stays to talk to me.  I give her shit for her non-cosutme and she's eating it up saying she's "anti-Halloween."  I mess with her a bit, but it's not going anywhere, so I let her float away.

Head outside and I'm just chilling when I see an HB9 dressed as Daisy Duke.  No way I'm gonna let her get away.  I go straight up and say, "Daisy Duke?  I just had to come over here and talk to you.  I have to admit, I'm a bit turned on right now."  Lol, everything went better than expected.  We're vibing, but I don't really know how to escalate.  We're on the street and she's surrounded by her friends.  I try to bounce her inside, but it's not working.  Eventually I turn my back on the set and out comes Kumar and fucking introduces me to Daisy Duke's friend who I am now in set with.  She's a cutey and we're vibing, but it feels disingenuous to escalate with her after telling her friend how fucking cute I thought she was.  So they eventually disappear.

The End

It's towards the end of the night and we're all opening sets left and right.  There's this HB9 in a purple top (no costume) who is fucking smoking hot, so I go talk to her.  I think some guy was trying to chat her up, but I just come barging in.  I open with "I love your costume."  Then I tell her to put a hand over her eye, which she does.  I put a horn on top of her head and tell her she's a One-Eyed, One-Horned, Flying Purple People Eater.  LOL.  She's loving it.  We're vibing.  For some reason though, the guy who I stole the set from WILL NOT LEAVE.  Even though she's clearly into me, he's just standing there.  I probably should've just pulled her elsewhere.  Lesson 2 When in doubt, go for the bounce.

Tons more sets, but I'll skip to the good stuff now.  We're walking to the car, opening sets as we go.  Me and another sedditor get too far ahead of the group, so we walk back.  On the way back I see the mother-fucking Khaleesi, dragons and all.  So I fucking open her.  I point at her.  "Khaleesi."  "YES!" she says, and she's obviously happy I recognized her costume.  She was with a guy, but at one point he splits and she stays.  Lesson 3 Never assume the girl is with the guy.  Open her anyway.

Sets going real well.  I tell her we should "get coffee sometime and talk about Game of Thrones."  LOL, I swear sometimes the stupidest stuff works.  She says "Maybe."  So I say, "Ima take out my phone and put your name in.   By the time I'm done, you decide."  "That's fair," she says.  I take out my phone and put her name in (which I got earlier).  Then I hand it to her and say, "here."  She puts her number in.  I talk a little bit more (I never like leaving straight after the #close) and say goodbye.  She's still standing there, so I kiss her on the cheek.  She seems receptive to that and sort of moved her lips so that they were close to mine.  So I kiss her.  Boom, makeout.

So that was my night.  Thanks to the guys from BAS for helping to make it happen and for being master openers.  We'll do it again soon.

Final Takeaway Sometimes you just have to go for it.  Keep at it my dudes, and sarge well.

Wednesday, October 26, 2011

10/22/11 FR

Went out to the city dressed like a boss.  Picture Don Draper.  Before I even get to the venue, I'm opened by a twoset.  "I like your hat, can my friend try it on?"  I walk over and place my hat on the cute friend.  I'm talking to these girls for a bit, but fail to escalate.  The convo isn't really going anywhere, so I eject.

Get to the venue and see two people outside whom I don't know, but know are at the same party.  Open them and introduce myself.  Head into the club.  The party is upstairs, so I get a drink downstairs to collect myself.  I go upstairs and there's some crazy shit going on with a stripper pole.  I walk through the crowd because I want no part of it.  I go to a table that has cookies and eat them.  There are some interestingly carved pumpkins.  I take pictures of them.  I then walk around a little bit, lost because I don't know anyone (with a little AA).  I open a guy standing alone.  I eject before I get into a too-long conversation.  I open someone else.  While talking to him a girl comes over (she's pretty cute).  I talk to the girl for a bit.  She has some major cleavage.  I say, "sorry, it's hard to talk to you in that dress."  She blushes.  I take my hankerchief out of my pocket and cover her cleavage.  "Much better," I say.  This girl introduces me to some people.  One of these people knows another girl who comes over.  This girl invites us to a new venue spot.  We bounce.

At the venue spot, this new girl tells me to order her a water.  She gives me shit.  Comes back for her water and I tell her I forgot.  I then get the water, take a sip and bring it to her saying, "I checked it for poison."  Thinking back I should have taken it to her then just taken a big sip i/f/o her before handing it off.  I'm talking to people later and she tries to but in so I ignore her.  I think this scores me points.

I bounce to the original venue where party is still going strong.  I see a girl outside and talk to her for a minute.  She heads in first, then I head in.  This one girl is giving me eyes, but I'm talking to someone and still not confident enough to capitalize.  She later opens me and is really cool to talk to, but I blow it some how and eject.  I find the girl from outside and say, "let's go smoke."  She complies and takes two of her friends with her.  I ISO her outside and we're talking.  I don't ramp up kino like I should and don't make an obvious number close.  She bounces and I return inside where there are two other aPUAs.  I tell them I want to bounce and they agree, so I drive us all to the new spot.

At the new spot, I open this girl and she hooks right away.  She loves my hat.  Wants to try it on.  Tries to take it and I say "ah, ah, ah," and put it on her.  "It's sweaty," she says.  I say, "yup."  Talk to her for a bit.  "Why are you so happy?" I say.  "Because I'm drunk," she says.  Talk to her some more and my wing comes over.  Leave them to it and go to bar.  Come back and my wing is still in set so I reopen.  There is a really hot girl there so I start talking to her.  As I'm talking to her, the original girl from the group puts my hat on this new girl.  We're talking and she's vibing.  I don't kino escalate (sticking point found), but she is giving me really good bl and keeps sending off her friends who come to get her.  I go for the number close but she's hesitant and says she'll take mine.  I give her mine phone and tell her to put her name in.  She does.  I tell her to put her number in and she says she'll text me.  Oh well, fail.

Go outside.  Some girl opens me with a whacky opinion opener.  I talk to her friend.  Get her number.  At some point I was talking about her boobs and how nice they were.  We're going out Friday.

Pros: Social proof, talking to everyone, peacocking works.

Cons: need more physical game

Tuesday, October 25, 2011

On Being Opened and IOIs

I've noticed lately that I've been getting opened a lot more than I used to.  Either that or I am just better at noticing when girls are hitting on me.  A couple of observations.

1.  Assume Attraction/ Everything is an IOI.  Girls are very socially calibrated people.  Tenfold moreso than guys.  They've had tons of practice actually talking to people growing up and in high school, while we were obsessing over girls, playing video games, or what have you.  What all this means is that a girl very rarely makes an unpremeditated move.  Where she stands in a club, where she sits, where at the bar she goes to get a drink, who she talks to, it's all a dance that the girl has been practicing her whole life.  Her two main goals are to: 1) remain safe and 2) have fun.  A "good girl" will also want to make sure her friends are having a good time.

What does all this mean?  It means if a girl asks you for the time, it's because she's chosen you.  If a girl walks RIGHT BY YOU and rubs up against you, it's an IOI.  If a girl asks you something (about a drink, about the street, about an event), you better believe she wants to talk to you.  OPEN HER!

There are many sorts of IOIs, and the best way to calibrate correctly to get and know these IOIs is practice.  But here are a few: You look at a girl across the room, smile.  She does not look away; you're talking to a girl and holding your ground.  She does not walk away; a girl starts talking to you "out of the blue;"  a girl who you've never talked to before asks you for something..

Now, just because you've received an IOI doesn't mean your job is done.  You've got to use what you know and not fuck it up.  My current sticking point is not taking the opener and running with it.  This past weekend I've had at least five girls open me.  I didn't kiss or fuck any of them and I only ended up with one number.  I can do better.  However, the more I am opened, the better I will become at gauging the situation.

What are your experiences with being opened?  How has it changed your perspective?

Sets is not just girls

When I write about opening "sets," what I mean is talking to people.  I say, "talk to everyone" a lot, but people rarely know what I mean.  I literally mean "talk to everyone."

You're not going to get better at this if you don't like talking to people.  When I go out with guys, they are so intent at talking to girls that they totally forget about their social game.  What sets us apart from every other AFC trying to hit on girls is that we're talking to everyone: the life of the party.  We're talking to the doorman going into the club, and flirting with the bartender.  We're asking the guy in the bathroom how his night is going and leaving him a tip.  We're talking to the person next to us at the bar ("Hey.  Is this bartender taking forever?").  We talk to the group of old ladies, and the hotties who just walked in.  This is game.

Here's an example.  At a concert the other night, I was talking to this guy.  He seemed like just a normal guy, trying to enjoy the show.  He was eyeballing every girl that passed.  Eventually, a cute blonde chick comes up to me and asks me for a cigarette.  Now I never let that go.  I give her shit.  I'm ALWAYS giving girls shit (it's part of the persona.  1 - it shows you're cool to be around, 2 - you can't give a fuck.  You're talking to so many girls, you mine as well make it fun).  This girl's digging it.  She starts qualifying herself HARD.  At one point her friend comes over, but I ISO the chick and eventually her friend leaves.  I was a little tipsy and nothing came out of it.  After she leaves, I tell the guy to my left, "Well, that's about all I had in me tonight."  He goes, "HOW DID YOU DO THAT?!"

It's no secret.  Talk to everyone.  Be the life of the party.  Let your confidence show and be prepared for when girls open you.  I am still learning how to handle girls opening me.  It's relatively new to me, but I'm pretty sure I'll get there.

Keep at it, playas.

Tuesday, October 18, 2011

Remember the Basics

I haven't been going out as frequently as I used to.  In which case, I should focus on the basics.  Always remember to go back to your core values and get yourself into the state you need to be.  Meditate if you need to.  Just remember the basics.  Read over Orleans' 11 Points.  Whatever you need.

Look.  You're not going to feel Alpha, like a PUA, a Don Juan 100% of the time.  It's just not going to happen.  But don't use that as an excuse.  Make yourself better.

Currently, I am much better at number closing than I was just two months ago.  I now need to begin thinking about focusing on different goals, such as k-closes and f-closes.

Short-term goal is gaming without alcohol.

Friday, October 14, 2011


I'm trying to be more honest with my game, as I am in life.  I don't want to "game" women per se, rather I want to come from a place of strength.  Like working out, if your core strength is solid, all the other exercises get easier.

I did not go out last night.  I was tired and needed a night of rest.  And I'm ok with this.  Funny thing happened though.  The nurse from last Friday in the South Bay texted me and asked me what I was up to.  I told her I was planning on sleeping, but she was welcome to join me.  Her response: "At a bar...do you want to join me?"

This was an example of a time I should have just said nothing.  But I overthought it and fired off, "what bar?"  I was planning on not going either way, but she never responded.

C'est la vie.  Lesson learned.  I have an abundance mentality and I am a high value male.  If she wants to hang out again, she will text me.  Otherwise, maybe I will text her.

Thursday, October 13, 2011

Pre-Game, Some Random Thoughts

About to go out tonight and I wanted to get some thoughts down.

Currently I am working on upping my physical escalation game.  I feel as though I've had great sets the past two weeks and really could have gone for kiss-closes but didn't.  I am doing great at opening sets, building rapport, disarming obstacles and making groups out of strangers.  What I need to work on is physical escalation and isolation.

Another thing I've been going over in my head is eliminating or at least seriously reducing alcohol from my game. It's expensive, makes you more tired in the morning, and can really put a hamper on your game later on in the night.

I don't really feel like going out tonight, but I am going to force myself to anyway.

I've been getting great eye-contact on the streets lately.  I don't know if it's because of my inner game, because I've been working out, because of my posture, or all of the above.  But I can smile at women and get them to smile back almost 100% of the time.  Now I really need to start opening them....

I've been working out a lot lately, but I've also gotten lazy with some other aspects of my life.  I really need to find the balance where I can work on my game, do well at my job, have a strong social circle, and also get all the shit done that I need to do.  This will probably come in time, but I may need to take a breather from the game in order to coordinate it all.

I've got a birthday coming up and I"m planning logistics for that.  I've made some contacts with women in the past month and have girls who, although I may not have slept with, that I am in contact with via text.  I also have a friend in town from out-of-country.  It will be good to see her if it happens.

All-in-all I feel like I am improving, but have plateau'd again.  I just have to keep pushing on and getting better every day.

Tuesday, October 11, 2011

10/7/11 FR

Met up with a few BAS guys about 11p on Friday night.  Brought out a female friend who promised to wing.

First set:  Started the night talking to the bartender who I had met the previous night.  Social proof.  Also, at the first bar someone had put their foot through the window, so this was conversation material all night (got the story from the bouncer.  Social proof x2).  A girl with crutches sits next to me.  Talk about how it must be tough to walk around a bar with those.  Talk about feelings of going stir crazy, sitting at home.  I ask her to dance (lol).  It's my warmup set.

Sets Two through Six:  We bounce to more of a club-type atmosphere.  There's a girl at the front ordering a drink.  I tease her a bit and ask her what she'd do if I got a drink first.  She says punch me.  I tease her for quite a bit and there's definite attraction there.  I tell her about the bar in the back.  She makes a move to go, but I hesitate so she stays.  I bounce a couple minutes later and tell her I'll "do this" (cheesy smile) if I get my drink before her.

Bounce to bar in back where I know bartender.  Get drink quickly.  Probably talk to girls.  One of my favorite bar openers is, "I'm not stealing your spot, just trying to get a drink."  Then I open.  I go to the bathroom after my drink and see the girl from above.  I raise my drink and smile.  She laughs.

Bounce outside.  Opening sets like mad.  Open a fourset of grenades.  I hook into the group.  I know I hook because I tell the stupidest joke in the world and the girl laughs.  Here's the joke:  "Why did the posh chicken cross the road?  To get to the $10,000 of course!"  Lol, it was that bad.  I bounce out of the set and into another.

I ask these two girls for a light (they're talking to a guy).  One girl says "no."  I look at her incredulously.  The other says, "I have one."  Pulls it out of her cleavage.  I give her shit.  I give the other girl shit for being a bitch.  Now I'm giving them both shit.  I'm rocking back and forth and the guy who was talking to them bounces.  I hook into the set and keep throwing in FTCs.  The girl with the lighter says it's her b-day week.  I don't believe her (I NEVER believe them).  She pulls out her ID from her cleavage.  MAN, do I give her shit for that.  We talk about what else is hidden down there.  Would've been a great time to start kino.  Eventually the girls bounce.  I give them a recommendation of the right bartender to get drinks from.  When I see them later they are grateful.  Turned a lost set (guy trying to pick them up, bitch shields WAY up), into a semi-success.

Sitting, I see a cute girl.  I tell one of the BAS'ers to open her.  He says, "not my type."  I go in.  It's a mixed set.  I open with "You girls look so cool and like you're having so much fun, I just had to come over and talk to you."  I'm in.  While talking to them, come to find out the girl who I thought was really cute has a boyfriend (who tried to blow me out but whom I then befriended.).  I talk to them for a bit about #occupywallstreet, then bounce because neither of the other options were that attractive.  One interesting thing about this set is that I was kinoing one girl on the shoulder and she goes, "you keep touching me on the shoulder."  I go, "yup."

Last set of the venue, one of my wings was in a threeset.  I go in to wing.  They're talking sign language.  I know two things, "I hate you" and "I love you."  I show one girl.  I think she makes a smart-ass remark while I'm showing her, so I show her "I hate you first."  It gets a laugh.  We start talking about sign cusses.  This gets into a convo about Italian cusses.  I teach this one girl a few.  They bounce but the girl I teach keeps bringing her friends to me.  This one girl she brings gives me the DDB eyes.  We talk and like an idiot, I do not escalate.  She's ready to be kissed but I don't.  We get to talking about her name and we make it a game like Rumplestilskin.  I say, "If I get it right, you have to go home with me.  If not," I don't remember what the if not was.  She agrees and we are haggling over the rules of the game (she proposes three guesses, I say five.  She says I've already taken two), when her friend comes and swoops her away.  I don't number close because all we had was mere attraction.  I should've fucking kissed her.  We venue bounce.

Set Seven: Last set of the night was most successful.  I open the first set I see of two hot, amazonian women and one dude.  I get them laughing.  They like me.  The dude wings me to hook me up with one of the girls (I got the impression he was dating the other one).  I keep going back to this set throughout the night and eventually the HB Amazon isolates herself for me and we go into rapport.  I number close when I should have kiss closed.  Must remember to kiss close more.  For more in depth account of this set, check out the 100sets link to the right.

Takeaway:  ESCALATE ESCALATE ESCALATE.  Friend of mine recently returned from an RSD mini-boot.  He says that they teach that you should k-close within the first twenty minutes.  I should be constantly escalating so that I get to this point.

Friday, October 7, 2011

Solo FR -- In Depth

This is going to be long.  I'll try to split it up by lessons/takeaways.

Lesson 1 -- Your state is unaffected by those things outside of your control

Was supposed to go to a concert last night.  I go out to my car, and I have a flat tire.  All the way flat.  Didn't notice until I started driving towards the show.  I make a detour to the nearest gas station and attempt to put air in.  I have a hole.  I drive it back home and get a jack (took me a while to find one) and tire iron.  I attempt to remove the lug nuts.  No go.  Fuck.  By now it's already an hour past when I should have left, and it would be at least another hour to get help to fix the tire, so I say "fuck it" and head out.

Lesson 2 -- You are the party.

As I'm headed downtown, I remember that there is a zombie crawl tonight.  I look up the info on my smart phone and see that the next bar they are hitting is my local drinking establishment.  I also have a girl friend visiting from out of town, so I text her and make tentative plans to see her later.

I get to the bar and there are a couple of zombies in there.  I know the people who work here, so I say hello to them and build up some value.  I get my drink and head outside.  It took me a while to get into state.  I had some AA going on.  I'm standing out there and I saw a threeset as soon as I went out there.  I noticed they weren't dressed as zombies.  I had my opener.  Just took me five minutes or more to open them.  But I do.  They seem like they're all moms and they hook right away.  They love me.  One is applying heavy kino to me.  We're talking.  They finish they're cigarettes, but I am still in conversation with one of them so they wait for me to finish before leaving.  They say they're going dancing and that I should come.  I never feel comfortable following girls to the dance floor so I say I'll see them later.  I count to ten and head inside.  I drop my drink off and head to the atm.

Lesson 3 -- Join the Party

I reenter the bar after hitting the atm.  While in line there are people taking payments for the zombie crawl.  I'm talking with them because I talk to everybody.  They rope me into giving a $3 donation so I can get a wrist band and a piece of green tape that says I'm infected/part of the group.  This piece of tape was actually amazing because 1. it allowed me to look like I knew the group/what was going on and 2. it was a great conversation starter.

I get in.  First set I see is two girls dancing.  They look good.  I say, "You guys are infected."  One goes, "huh? oh yeah."  I say, "Well, I don't want what you have, so stay away."  Then one of them bites me.  On the neck.  It was sexy.  Why didn't I kiss her?

Open a girl who gives a drink to a guy.  He flips her off.  I say, "You two must be great friends."  She says, "Who is that guy."  We laugh and talk.

Outside there is a fire-juggler.  I go out and watch him.  I text my friend to meet me.

Lesson 4 -- Sometimes the Best Game is Simply Being Prepared to be Lucky

Go inside.  A girl stands next to me to take a picture of her group.  I say, "You should get in."  She says, "no."  I persist.  She eventually does and the pic comes out great.  When she comes back to get her camera, she kinos me.  It's on.  I reopen her.  We talk about stuff.  She's cute.  I'm liking her.  My friend comes in at this point and stands there awkardly.  I say hello to her and give her a hug.  We'll call her "Cheryl."  The gal I'm talking to says her name is Cheryl too.  She takes out her ID to prove it.  I make fun of her.  My friend leaves.  i talk to Cheryl more.  It's time for me to leave.  I tell Cheryl I'll see her at the next bar.

I chase my friend, grab her, and we move on to the next bar.  It's a gay bar.  It's fine, lots of cute girls.  Find out, my friend is a terrible wing women.  I go outside to smoke.  Some threeset (one girl) is signing along to backstreet boys.  I say, "you guys should form a band."  The girl says they should make videos.  I agree and say I'd watch it.  "I might not give you guys a thumbs up, but I'd watch."  Then I tell the girl that she looks like a planner and needs to make it happen.  I high-five her and move inside to find my friend.  We make our way to the exit and I send her on her way while I hit the next bar.

Lesson 5 -- Talk to Everybody

On my way to the other bar, I talk to everybody.  I'm passing a place and hear music.  I go in for a drink to listen to the music.  By the time I get my drink the music is over.  I harass a band a little bit about that and get along well.  Go outside.  See a girl I met last weekend and was talking with about herpes (lol).  She's all right, but her friend's hot.  Unfortunately, her friend's hanging off of some guy.  I get her number and go to the next bar.

There's a line for this one.  While waiting in line I talk to everyone.  The guys behind me ask me to take a picture of them.  I do.  I take three.  Last one was fantastic.  A girl photobombed, though.  I make fun of her for that.  Then she's taking a picture, so I photobomb that.  Then I'm talking to the two girls in front of me.  One asks for a light or something.  I tell them I'm going to take a picture with them.  I do.  Somehow I get to talking to the girl in the picture.  We get to talking about her breasts.  She says they're her best feature and are all real.  I touch them.  She doesn't mind and keeps talking about them.  I cup them.  I tell her she has great tits.  She says her nipples are even better.  God, why wasn't I fucking this girl?  Why aren't I fucking her right now?

Eventually I get in the bar.  After some rigormoroll, I find myself in the back.  It's either hang by myself or open a set.  I open a seated threeset in the corner (two girls).  I say, "You guys look cool, so I'm just gonna hang with you."  They're passing around a blunt.  It goes to me and I puff.  The guy is giving me major DHVs. The girl to my left tells me to take a seat.  I tell them I'll brb.  I go to the bathroom and see a line.  Coming back in, I see a guy standing by himself.  He's all down on himself, so I tell him to get the fuck over it and talk to people.  I psyche him up a little and go back to the table.  I take a seat and sit down.  I say, "well, I'm back."  I talk to them for a bit until it's time to go.

I'm literally on my way out the door when I see Cheryl from earlier.  She's in a group of three guys.  I open all the guys like I know them.  I actually thought they were sedditors.  The girl bounces me outside.  We're iso'd. I kino escalate.  I'm digging her, she's digging me.  At this point I'm stoned and a little drunk.  I keep her attention, but eventually she goes to the bathroom with friends.  Rather than wait around, I just go home.

All in all a good - great night.  I would've liked to have kissed the girl who bit my neck, made out with the girl whose tits I grabbed and gotten Cheryl's number.  But hey, I'm learning.  And thinking about last night, I'm making progress.

Keep at it, playa.

Tuesday, October 4, 2011

Couple of Sets from Saturday

1.  Open a fourset.  I open the cutest girl of the group.  Find out she's Colombian.  They are all Colombian, except for the one who seems to be the leader.  I talk to her for a bit because her English is the best.  I keep going back to the Colombian girl to get her talking.  I guess I could've escalated better.  Eventually, the set is dragged off by a friend who's found a table in the back.  I awkwardly eject instead of giving them a chance to invite me.

2.  Outside, some chick comes by and asks for a cigarette.  Her tits are fantastic.  She has the thinnest cigarette ever so I ask her if she's a 40 y/o mother of three.  She gets offended.  I say, "the only reason I can joke with you about that is because you're 23."  She hooks right away.  She says she just turned 30.  I say, "Me too!" and high five.  It's going well and we're talking, but when I say, "where are your girls?," she runs away to find them.  Whoops.

3.  Talk to a seated twoset.  Doesn't get very far.  One girl says "check you later!" with the gun motion from Dazed and Confused.  I want to reference but can't remember what I want to say.  Tell her I'll be back when I remember.  Remember and go back saying to her, "all right, all right, all right."

4.  Talk to twoset at the bar.  REALLY hard to break into.  Focus on the blonde who seems most open, but really want to talk to brunette.  Eventually brunette opens up.  Says she's moving to NY.  I ask where and she says lower east side.  I ask if she's rich.  She says, "No, but my fiance....well, not actually my fiancee."  I make fun of her mercilessly for this.  We talk a bit about NYC, but it's a weird set.  The blonde doesn't seem that interested, and I am really interested in the brunette, but if she's moving in with a guy, I couldn't do that.  So I talk for a bit more and eject.

5.  Head over to the 100 sets link for this number close.

6.  There's a booth open at McTeague's.  See two girls racing to it.  I race to it.  Make it look like I was heading there.  Give them some shit.  They invite me to sit.  I oblige.  We talk some.  I run out of steam or something (tends to happen a bunch, not sure if it's my own mental block or what) and eject out of the booth.

7.  Another fun one.  Talking to some people about the back patio of this one place.  They say there's a place to sit back there and the guy goes, "Shit, maybe I shouldn't have told you."  The girl splits to start going back there and I say, "OOOoooooh.  I'm getting there first."  I start chasing her.  She moves quicker.  In the dining room I say, "EXCUSE ME!" and attempt to pass her, but she's faster.  When we get back there she finds two open tables and says, "I guess we're all going to have to hang out together now," or something similar.  We talk a bit.  She was a fun/hot girl in a group full of guys.  Always a bit awkward/intimidating.

8.  Last bar of the night.  Bartender asks me what I want.  I tell her to make me her best drink.  She says, "that's a lot of pressure."  I say, "I like vodka."  She makes something with Absolut Citron and Drambouie.  Says it tastes like rainbow shirbert.  Holy shit it does.

Monday, October 3, 2011

11 Points

I've been listening to old episodes of the pickup podcast (which is gold, by the way. Do yourself and a favor and listen to them. ALL of them) and heard one that interviewed Orleans of Vin DiCarlo's program (link). On the show, he talked about 11 points/affirmations that he feels are essential to the game. I now share them with you. But, I highly recommend you listen to the podcast (linked above).
  1. You are ok right now. You are the Value.
  2. You are comfortable in a position of leadership
  3. You are comfortable with your sexuality
  4. You have vision, goals and passions outside of meeting women
  5. You bring positive energy to all interactions
  6. You are unattached to outcomes. You are in the Now. Just Slow Down.
  7. You are interested in others. You are curious.
  8. You are playful, fun, exciting, interesting, and magnetic.
  9. You are comfortable in social situations
  10. You have a deep knowingness that women want you.
  11. You have strict rules that you do and do not accept from others.

Thursday, September 29, 2011

9/23/11 FR

Have not been going out as much because I've been focusing on other things.  However, I did go out last Friday and I'll post a short FR here.

Started as most Fridays have, with me heading to drinks with coworkers.  We've been hitting the same bar consistently, so I've developed some good relationships there with the regulars and the staff.  I cannot stress enough how important social game is to your overall game.  Remember that getting better with women is just a by-product of you becoming a better person overall.

So, we're at the bar and having some drinks.  I'm in a suit from a hearing earlier in the day.  I feel uncomfortable at first, but just own it and become comfortable.  I'm talking to people and enjoying myself.  At some point, it's time to go, so I head over to my "home bar."  I'm still in my suit, but make the best of it and open some sets.  After one drink, it's time to go home and get changed.  I'm meeting some friends at midnight, so I go home, get changed and head back to the bar.  When I reopen sets, they notice I've changed, but I play it off as funny.  One set in particular I hook real well.  It's a mixed set so I say, "You guys are fun, I'm hanging out with you tonight."  I keep going back to them and they are really receptive.  None of the girls are 9s or 10s (hey, it's San Jose), but I have fun anyway.

Eventually, midnight rolls around and I've got to go meet my friends, so I say my goodbyes and head out.  I was completely outcome independent tonight and my sets benefited from it.  I went out just thinking that I'd have a good time, and I did.  The sets I talked to were fun and receptive.

The rest of the week, I've been working on inner game.  I'm trying to become a better value-giver, as well as non-reactive.  I want people to want to be around me.  I want to be able to look at a girl and build attraction without saying a word.  I think it's been going well because I've been having some positive experiences during the week.  For instance, I was out Tuesday and had some really good interaction with a couple of hired guns. Great eye contact and smiles, to the exclusion of others.

Every once in a while it's nice to step back and work on your inner game.  Tonight we go out with the San Jose crew.

Sunday, September 25, 2011

Thursday Night Last

Thursday night went out with the BAS crew.  We only had four show up, but a crew is a crew.  We met up at a dive bar to pregame it.  I got there first and didn't see many options.  There was a twoset at the bar who I opened with, "I'm not trying to take your seat, just ordering a drink."  They smiled and I played with them a little bit before I got served.  It took forever to get served, so we talked a bit.  One was really cute.  I didn't really know how to escalate and kind of left the set without really getting anywhere, except that the girls liked me.  I later came back to them asking, "Have you seen my friend?  He's an indian guy."  They said knope, so I told them to let me know if they saw them.

Next set was a one-set that I had seen earlier was a twoset.  I open the seated HB7.  I say something like, "I was going to take your seat, but then saw there was a purse there, so I won't."  She says something.  I say, "Hey, let me ask you something."  Go into a routine about how the bar is movie-themed, so why the heck is there a picture of Frida Kahlo on the wall.  She never heard of her before, so I make fun of her a bit.  Her friend comes back and sits, so I bring her into the convo.  The HB7 says, "She'll know who she is."  I say, "Why's that?"  She says because she's Mexican.  Lol, so now me and her friend are making fun of her.  I say, "What do you mean, you people?"  It was pretty fun.  The friend ended up being a lesbian and I hooked to the point where they told me to bring a chair over.  However, by then the BAS crew was calling, and indeed, there were two right behind me!  So I eject from the twoset and me and the BAS crew hit the clubs.

We basically open every set we play.  At one point we make a game where your wing points out a set and you have to open it.  Tow sets of note: 1.  Opened a girl with a hat.  I say, "Nice hat, I like your style."  I know the first part is AFC, but I recovered.  We talk a bit and I try to elicit values by saying, "I don't want to call you hat girl.  Tell me something about yourself."  It doesn't go very far, though.  I end up seeing her the next night and go, "Heeeyyyyy!  Hat girl!"

Next set of note was a black girl I was trying to get one of the BAS'ers to talk to.  I told him to open her saying, "Heyyyy.  I love your short hair.  Looks really good on you," or some bullshit.  He doesn't want to open her, so I do using that.  It hooks.  I ask what she would think of me with a shaved head.  She says I'd look good.  I tell her we should dance.  She says after she does a shot, I tell her I'll be back.  I was never able to get her to hook after that though.

I had a great night hanging out with fellow seduction apprentices.  It works wonders to go out in a crew.  I am still not at a point where I want to be, but hopefully I am improving.

There were many more sets this night.  Some hooked (the hairdresser who wanted me to take a picture of her crew, the girl with a tatoo whom I spilled a drink on) and some didn't, but I didn't get what I wanted (a solid number from a cool/cute girl).  I will keep it up.

Monday, September 19, 2011

Be a Better Man

It's easy to forget, with all the sarging, that the point of the Pick-up community is to make better men.  We all got into this because we were dissatisfied with our lives.  Sure, we may have been all stars on the X-Box, or A students, or athletes.  But the fact remains that something was missing.  That is why we've sought this community out.

Believe it or not, what was missing from our lives was not a lack of women.  The lack of women was merely a symptom of the overall problem: dissatisfaction with our lives.  There are some things to remember about pick-up that have nothing to do with picking up women.  Yet these basic principles will make us inherently better with women.  They are:

- to be outcome independent.  This does not mean don't have goals.  Goals are very important too.  It simply means that we must be satisfied with our lives as they are (and if not, then to change our lives).  It means that we are self-entertained.  It means that we will do what we are doing anyway because we want to.

- to be value-givers.  Pick-up is about connecting to people.  If you are only talking to women, then you are doing it wrong.  Pick-up is talking to everyone.  Pick-up is brightening everyone's days.  You should be just as charming to the bum on the street as you are to that HB9.

- to set goals for ourselves.  Yes, we are to have goals, even though we are outcome independent.  Trust in the system, just do not have an ulterior motive.

- to be self-content.  The end-game of any pick-up artist is to be content with who we are.  Like I said above, we come to this community because of a dissatisfaction with out lives.  It should be our goal to be completely satisfied with our lives.

- finally, have fun.  It's easy to forget this one.  Sarging is hard.  Talking to strangers is hard.  If you aren't having fun, you're not going to last.  So go out there and have fun.

Hope this helps for you guys.  Remember to set your goals and to have fun.  We are doing this to become better people.

Sunday, September 18, 2011

I'm getting laid

on the reg.  Just thought I'd throw that out there.  I'm not doing this for show.  I'm doing this because I want to help people.  I go out there and I talk to women.  However, I have a fall back.  It's good to always keep one on the burner.  She texts me with, "I really want your dick soon."  This is what we are shooting for.  I want four more girls who do that all the time.  You guys should too.  These are the goals.  You may have your own, but those are mine.

Do not limit yourself with your beliefs.  Just go out there and do you.  If you're not satisfied, CHANGE IT.  Be the change you want to be.  You are the man.

Friday, September 16, 2011

Gym Game

Hit the gym last night.  Noticed some girls checking me out.  This is becoming my gym routine:

 - enter club.  If there's a cute girl behind the desk (you have to check in), flirt with her.  Currently there are two girls I am flirting with.  One is super hot (HB 9) and attractive INSIDE too (lol, choad).  Seriously, though.  I like her in the sense where my game goes out the window because I get so nervous.  However, I have been talking to her and now whenever she sees me, she brightens up and goes "HIII!"  I should get her number somehow.  "Hey, do you like (what)?" [Her Answer].  "Cool, let's do that.  Give me your number and I'll give you a call."

The other girl I am talking to I am less interested in.  She qualifies herself constantly to me.  She's super shy though, but seems like a pretty cool girl.  I should probably get her number.

- Yesterday when I entered the club I saw a chick whom I had seen at the bar Tuesday.  Not sure if it made it into that night's FR, but basically I saw her at the bar all dolled up.  She pretended to hide from me (obviously recognized me from the gym), so I went over there and teased her, flirted and basically just hung out.  She was with a guy, so I said, "Go for it, man," and put them on their way.  LOL, he was so happy to hear that.  Before I got into the community I never wanted guys to hook up with girls.  Now I do.  I want everyone getting laid all the time.

ANYWAY, I see her there and so give her some DHV ("HEEEEEY GIIIIIRRRRL!" *giant smile).  LOL.  I love life, and the game is great.

- After I flirt with the girls at the desk, I go change.  Working out, there's one gay guy who keeps giving me MAJOR proximity IOIs.  Easy guy, not interested.  Dunno how to let them down easy yet.

- Working on the machine, a cute girl comes over and gives me some proximity IOIs.  She's wearing headphones and I'm having a good workout, so I don't open.  Later, she's over by a rest area, just standing there.  However, she keeps her headphones in, so I don't open.  We do share smiles while I pass, though.  I probably should have opened.  That's a sticking point.  Just say, "hi."

- Doing ab exercises, these two girls come straight over to me, then walk past me.  One of them looks right at me like she wants to fuck me.  I don't open them.  FUCK AA.  Just say, "hi."  Give her the "fuck me" eyes.  Or the "I'm gonna fuck you" eyes.  She was really cute and I totally should have opened.  However, gym gaming is sometimes frowned upon.

I think to improve, I at least need to say "hi" to cute girls working out who give me IOIs.  I also need to #close the cutie at the front desk.